It’s opinion time folks!

I have several questions and I need your opinion! Come on Internetz, I know you have opinions! OK, just a little back story…..

As many of you know The Boy has been working out and walking with BJ Monday, Wednesday, and Friday. They have been going to play basketball on Tuesday and Thursday. Little Miss has been enjoying the workouts and walking too. And of course the attention she was getting from BJ was something she was really enjoying. The way he went on about her strength was possibly the highlight of her day.

A couple of weeks ago, Bug started working out with them. Now to begin with it was at a different time from The Boy, which kinda screwed with the basketball but she didn’t come everyday, so they were still going to play a couple of nights instead of walking. It became fairly clear, Bug was smitten with BJ. She was quick to tell us, she was not here to take another of The Boy’s friends, she just wanted to work out.

Back-back story….Bug has on three occasions got sweet on The Boy’s friends. The first, a boy that he had just started hanging out with, Bug fell head over heels and needless to say, The Boy rarely saw the boy and when he did, of course, it was with Bug there. When the romance fell apart, it was very uncomfortable for the young man to come around. It was uncomfortable for both of them to be around each other. So now he sees him when they run across each other.

The next boy, well he was a very good friend of The Boy, though I wasn’t feeding him often, he was here all the time. Or The Boy was at his house. They had a lot in common, we loved him and looked forward to him being here. He just had a way about him, so very sweet, with an easygoing way about him. Enter Bug…. They got together and The Boy got tossed to the rear. I mean if you were a 18 year old hormonal boy, would you choose to hang out with and go with another boy or a cute little girl? I know what I would choose if I was. Now don’t get me wrong, The Boy was always invited to hang out with them, but he had no interest in hanging out with a couple of horny people! According to him, all they did was suck face and giggle. Not a lot of fun for him. Outside forces came between them and they broke up. Now this young man still has feelings for her. He has been to the house once since the breakup and The Boy sees him on occasion when he runs across him when out and has been to his house a few times. No longer best friends.

The third boy was Rerun, The Boy’s bestest friend. Now Bug thought he was cute and did everything she could do to spend time with them. She all but invited herself to go off with them. Now Rerun is no idiot, he knew that if they started dating and it went bad, that his friendship with The Boy would suffer. He was not willing to risk it, OK they smooched a few times, but no dating. Bug decided Rerun was not the boy for her and let it go. Well, not exactly let it go, now she wants to cuss Rerun every time she sees him. Now Rerun hasn’t changed a bit, he has the same mouth and attitude he had when she thought he was so cute, only now she doesn’t find it cute. In fact, they can’t really be around each other without a fight and The Boy backs Rerun over her and she don’t like it.

Now on with the back story.

About the time Bug started working out, Little Miss decided she didn’t like the idea of another girl around, I mean it was competition. heh! Besides that it was obvious that Bug thought BJ was cute and he thought she was cute and sweet, though we were told repeatedly  that she was too young for him. Little Miss showed her ass like the demon spawn she is. BJ had not seen this side of her, he claimed that if Little Miss and The Boy had fought, Little Miss would have kicked his ass! The Boy said he would not walk with her again. I have tried to explain that she is a bit jealous of Bug and was acting out because of it, but it ain’t flying with The Boy. Bug and Little Miss can be the best of friends or the worst of enemies, rarely a middle ground. And Little Miss denies a crush on BJ but….. Now Bug is there and as far as Little Miss is concerned, UH…enemies. Bug has taken to working out everyday now. It may be later in the evening after Bj and The Boy have worked out, but she is here everyday. BJ broke up with his girlfriend on Thursday, Friday he stuck around here until Bug got off work and they went to get something to eat. Saturday night, plans were made for the drag strip, Bug worked til 9 pm and BJ stayed with The Boy at the drag strip until 8:15, a good, oh, hour. Guess where he went. Now we are told they are dating.

I am torn, I am glad that Bug has found a boy to like, I am glad that BJ likes a girl, whom I believe would treat him right, unlike what I have heard of his last girlfriend. But, The Boy is getting screwed again! And he has to work with BJ everyday as does my husband and Hubby is not the happiest of people with this hook up. He wants to sit down with Bug and his sister and have a “talk”. Oh, dear Lord, this wouldn’t be a nice talk. He also has concerns for BJ. You see, we know things about Bug, that I cannot state here, let’s just say there has been some confusion in the past and I thought it was straightened out, but apparently not.

OK, this is where I need the opinions of my Internetz!

1. BJ is 25 and Bug is 17. Eight years folks. Not bad if it was 32 and 40 or even 20 and 28, but 17 and 25….. That’s jail time if there is ugliness and her parents push it. And if they were to do anything, that I don’t want to think they would be doing, but hormones have a way of getting all fired up.

2. Bug felt it her place last night to tell Rerun to shut up and to leave and generally argue with him at every turn. The Boy told her Rerun was his “brother” and he had more right there than she did, he was invited. BJ backed Bug, they got ill with each other. BJ invited Bug and Bug is The Boy’s cousin, so she felt she had more right to be there. My opinion, no matter how much I like BJ, he don’t live here and the shop where “The Common Man’s Gym” is, is The Boy’s land. Bug is more than welcome to visit me anytime, in the house or in the yard, but the shop…. Not my area.

3. Is it wrong to be annoyed that, yet again, Bug has taken over a friend of The Boy’s? I had high hopes for this friendship. They act the same age, about 10 and they fought like brothers would. Never had a true cross word, just picking. BJ is a good guy, The Boy could use all the good influence he can get. I had hoped this might get him away from some of the slugs he ran around with. It was, not anymore, he ran right back to them when BJ got otherwise involved.

4. The Boy was enjoying the workouts, the walking and the basketball. A BIG thing considering he has the attention span of a gnat and lazy as hell to boot. Now he works out more or less by himself, which he is not enjoying. He goes and plays ball with the slugs, I had so hoped he would get away from. And he doesn’t want to walk with them, even without Little Miss. BJ has took to helping Bug with her workouts and she wants to giggle and act silly, so the workouts take to long to wait for BJ to help him much. Yesterday, he was fired up for the workout, he got changed and as he was putting on his shoes, he looked up to see Bug pulling up and he said, “There goes our  workout. I guess I will be on my own. BJ will help me get my weights on but that’s about it.” I asked him what he meant. He informed me, BJ helped her and kinda left him on his own, spotting him if needed, but otherwise, he was there with Bug. Jealous, maybe, but I see where it is coming from.

5. Little Miss…… Oh, it goes without saying that she had no chance at a future with BJ, but she so enjoyed her time with them. I enjoyed her time with them. Now with Bug around, she refuses to go out there. The Boy says Bug smarts off to her anyway, so he don’t blame her. Bug was the baby until Little Miss came into the picture. According to The Boy, Bug would be content if it were only her and BJ. And his friends, in her opinion shouldn’t be there.

6. I don’t see a marriage here, so what happens when it is over. If it is over for BJ but not Bug, I foresee a lot of crap if he comes up. You know seeing his car in the yard could cause hours of tears and heartache, Knowing he was here, also unprecedented heartache. And SIL would do anything to keep Bug from being sad, including, I feel, suggesting that BJ not come over if Bug is home. And God forbid, it is over for her and not him, the screaming across the field could be bad, the happening over to visit only to “discover” that he is here. And where does this put The Boy, right in the middle, by my calculations. 

Is this my problem? Yes and No. I mean my children are affected there for I am affected. I can only put up with so many snotty comments and bawling, before I lose it. On the other hand, it doesn’t affect me directly, whether they stay together or break up, isn’t any skin off my nose. Though I have enjoyed his smiling face and constant picking on others. I fear if it goes bad, I will have to go back to picking on everyone, which means they pick on me too. I could do without that.

And then there is my husband. He doesn’t agree with them dating at all. He wants to protect BJ, go figure. He feels like Bug should stay out from here and leave Bj and The Boy alone to do their thang. And if they must date, do it at her house. Of course, her house would have my SIL and BIL, where our house has a shop for privacy, unless Little Miss gets nosy and I am discouraging it. I mean I don’t want to have a talk with her if she happens in on something. * shudders at the thought* He wants to talk to Bug and his sister, not a good thing. I mean I get along with them, it might be difficult if they get into it. And my husband holds a grudge.

So Internetz what do you think? I really want to know.

Daisy update…… She is still in the hospital, but she may get to come home today. She appears to be over the Parvo, but she needs to be buffed up. The vet will make the decision this afternoon. She ate last night, a little bit, and hasn’t had vomiting or diarrhea since yesterday. They are going to take her temp and weigh her and then make a decision. I hope she gets to come home. I miss the rotten thing! We all miss her, Little Miss has cried several times a day since Friday and Hubby has lost it a couple of times. I have completely lost it when I reach down to pet her and discover it is the quilt not her. I can’t get comfortable in the bed with out her laying on my legs and kicking the shit out of me. I need to go. Awards Day at Little Miss’ school today and I told her I would try to get there, legs willing. And I am so far behind on my reading I may never get caught up. So until next time……….

HAVE A GREAT DAY AND THANKS FOR VISITING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!